If someone dropped real breadcrumbs the way that person drops attention for you, even pigeons would walk away confused.
One day they’re texting, then they disappear, then they pop back up like nothing happened.
Nothing is technically wrong, but nothing ever moves forward either.
If you’ve been thinking, “Something feels off, but I can’t explain what exactly,” then just keep reading.
They Text Like a Seasonal Update
They vanish for days, maybe weeks. Then out of nowhere they will ping with something like “Hey, you up?”
They won’t explain anything, like why they didn’t text? What’s the matter between you two… nothing at all! It’s not a conversation, it’s a temperature check. They’re just seeing if you’re still there.
And somehow… you reply.
The Conversation Has the Memory of a Goldfish
Every conversation begins exactly the same way. You could probably copy-paste it by now.
“Hey”
“What’s up?”
“How was your day?”
And then… it goes nowhere. Silence! Or a “Haha yeah” that ends it all. No depth is there, no direction at all! Just déjà vu.
Just the same loop, over and over.
Plans Live in the Imaginary Future
They’re amazing at talking about plans, but when it comes to actually making them? Not that great.
“Let’s meet sometime!”
“We should totally do this.”
“Soon, I promise.”
But somehow, soon never turns into a date on the calendar. If plans only live in conversation and never in real life, that person isn’t busy, you’re just being bread crumbed.
You Feel Weirdly Grateful for Bare Minimum Effort
One message from that person and suddenly your mood improves. A reply feels like a win, a compliment feels like a reward.
That’s not butterflies in your stomach, that’s just conditioning.
When someone’s inconsistency trains you to celebrate crumbs, then it’s not a connection, it’s not a friendship, it’s basically… nothing!
The Moment You Pull Away… They Reappear
You take longer to reply, you stop waiting around, and you start doing your own thing. That’s when they show up again…
A text, a meme in insta, a “hey, how’ve you been?”
Not to commit, just to make sure you’re still there!
If someone genuinely wants you in their life, you won’t feel confused all the time. You won’t be decoding messages. You won’t be guessing where you stand. You won’t feel confused or anxious. You will feel secure.
And that’s the difference!
If any part of this made you pause, I’d love to read your thoughts in comments.
What stood out to you most?
2 comments
This is soo relatable to me. I wish I could send it to the person with whom I am relating this to, but I wont, and you know why! 😉
I can understand why!🤣